"Let's get it on... We're all sensitive people... With so much love to give, understand me sugar... Since we got to be... Let's say, I love you... Let's get it on..." (Marvin Gaye, from even further 'back in the day.')
"Come inside, take off your coat, Ill make you feel at home. Now let's pour a glass of wine 'cause now we're all alone. I've been waiting all night so just let me hold you close to me, 'cause I've been dyin' for you girl and make love to me. Girl you make me feel real good. We can do it 'til we both wake up. Girl, you know I'm hooked on you, And this is what we'll do... I wanna sex you up. All night..." (Who can forget Color Me Bad?)
You are probably jammin right about now, but somewhere in the grown up recess of your brain, I am sure you are asking yourself "what's the point?" (I do have a point, I promise. I'm just not ready to reveal it yet. So there.)
It is no secret that I am an addict (to Facebook, people- let's not go all crazy and stuff), so it really should not come as a surprise when I say I read what people write at least 20 times a day... However, you people are killing my addiction and I am not okay with that!!!
If I read one more CRAZY post from someone about "I'm on the phone with my hubby" (FYI hubby is the new term for guy I just got in a relationship with 2 HOURS ago) or "I can't wait for my hubs to come over" or "I love the hubs, but I don't understand why he doesn't talk to me" or "I love him. He's my hubby, but why doesn't he ever call me?"- I am going to be forced to punch somebody in the face! (You better realize this is a complete figure of speech and I better not be getting any CRAZY emails about how I need anger management or some silly stuff like that!
Just to be clear, allow me to share some definitions with you all-
love (as defined in the BIBLE): Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
***If you have to ask him to respect you, if you find that more times than not- he is unkind to you, if you feel disrespected more than you feel honored, if you are always being told what you do wrong and what you have done wrong since the time of your birth, if he is constantly lying to you or being deceitful and if he is always threatening to leave you- IT IS NOT LOVE***
marriage: the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (Merriam Webster Online Dictionary)
***if you did not go to the Court House or the Church and STAND before GOD and some witnesses, followed by the signing of some legal papers- YOU HAVE NO HUSBAND***
playing: to live as if married without actually being legally married
***he didn't promise to love, honor or cherish you. He didn't promise to stay with you forever and he didn't agree to spending time with you. All he agreed to was that he was gonna have the same address as you and MAYBE be accessible for regular intercourse***
So, let's recap. Sex does not = love or signify a relationship. Playing House does not = love or signify a relationship. Marriage does not = love. Refer to definition of love and be prepared to work at it EVERY MINUTE of EVERY DAY for the REST of your life. If you aren't prepared to work it, then you don't need to be in it. If you don't need to be in it, you DEFINITELY don't need to tell the world via Facebook how much of a mess you are in right now. Respect yourself more than the
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